| Im getting married in less than 2 months! AHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! |
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| Do you realize you are worth dying for?
You don't need to give
yourself away to someone who won't give himself to you. You don't need
to use your body to get what you need. It's a cop out for not being a
certain kind of woman- a woman of dignity and honor.
Some women
only know how to relate to men by making a series of transactions. They
want to be wanted, and the man wants, well the man wants what lots of
men want. So they trade. Essentially they strike a deal with men, time
and time again.
Some women learn at an early age how to
negotiate. They need to be loved, to be validated, to be worth
something, and they discover that by giving a little of themselves to a
boy, they get what they need in return. It's a cycle, a patter that can
stay with them their entire lives.
But sex is not the search for
something that is missing. It's the expression of something that has
been found. It's designed to be the overflow, the culmination of
something that a man and a woman have found in each other.
You
DON"T need a man by your side to validate you as a woman. You ALREADY
are loved and valued. You're GOOD enough enough exactly as you are. Do
you believe this? Because it's true. You have limitless worth and
value. If you embrace this truth, it will affect every area of life,
especially your relationship with men.
You are worth dying for.
Your
worth DOES NOT come from your body, your mind, your work, what you
produce, what you put on, how much money you make. Your worth DOES NOT
come from either you have a man or not. You worth DOES NOT come from
whether or not men notice you. You have inestimable worth that comes
from YOUR creator.
You will continue to be tempted in a thousand
different way not to believe this. The temptation will be to go
searching for your worth and validity from places other than your
creator.
Especially men.
But you don't have to give yourself away to earn a man's love. You're better than that. You're already loved.
Your
strength is a beautiful thing. And when you live in it, when you carry
yourself with the honor and dignity that are yours, it forces the men
around you to relate to you on more than just a flesh level.
You are worth dying for.
If
your dating someone, what kind of man is he? Does he demonstrate that
he is the kind of man that would die for you? What is his posture
toward the world? Does he serve, or is he waiting to be served? Does he
believe that he's owed something, that he's been shortchanged, that
he's gotten the short end of the stick, that life owes him something?
Or is he out to see what he can give? Does he see himself as being here
to make the world a better place?
These are big questions you need to ask yourself.
What
does he expect of you? Does he expect you to sleep with him when he
hasn't committed to you forever? Does he want all of you without his
having to give all of him?
Can you tell him anything? Is he safe? Can he be trusted?
Can you open up to him, allowing yourself to be vulnerable, knowing that he will protect, not exploit, that vulnerability?
YOU ARE WORTH DYING FOR!
This is from the book SexGod by Rob Bell. I recommend everyone read this book!
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| SO here are my most recent conclusions: It is okay and actually good to question things. The only way I feel that my beliefs are MY beliefs is by questioning them and listening to people who do not believe them. I do think that people make the best decisions they know how to make based on their perceptions of a situation. BUT I also think some people are just jerks and have no consideration for other people. And if I find out what boy it is who likes to use the girls bathroom and not flush the toliet in Graham I will give him a peice of my mind. I am learning to be more tolerable. But what I am having a hard time doing is being tolerable of people who are intolerable. Life just isnt fair. We can control things to a certain point but the rest of it is out of our control, if we are doing the best we know how then what else is there to do? I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOGA! No one has all of the answers. I wish we all knew that and lived that way. |
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| so...since Robin is trying to bring it back, what the hay...we will try... I dont know what overcame me but yesterday I decide to go to Yogalates. Big Big Mistake. I woke up this morning and couldnt get out of bed. So I got my ole heating pad out and skipped my 8 oclock...wa..wa...I really kind of forgot how to write a blog...I wonder what I am going to do tonight. All my school work is done for the week and I am so broke its not even funny. I might just lay on the heating pad and catch up on Sex and the City... Sometimes I wish I could write like Carrie Bradshaw. Do you ever think she gets embarrassed about what she writes? Well she is fictional. I dont have anything embarrassing to write about it, but I do hold some stuff back... |
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| does anyone ever read xanga anymore? |
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